Kerala Women’s Commission (Vanitha Commission) Proposal to limit the
Expenditure on Weddings to 5 Lakhs only
I couldn’t find any FB/ watsapp/
twitter shares or much discussion forums on the proposal lately put forward by
the vanitha commission of Kerala to radically cut down the “Big Fat Wedding”
expenditure to 5 lakhs. So I must assume that it might be because 95% of the
Keralite population do not second their decision??? Or it went so unnoticed??.....
Strange!!!!!
Me as a woman and a forward
like-minded thinker; I highly second the proposal but still there are some
discrepancies that needs to be rectified in it which I have mentioned below.
And I really aspired that this proposal should have come into effect many years
back itself so that many parents like mine as well as many others with one, two
, three or more daughters could have highly benefitted from this proposal.
The Latest trends of big fat
weddings include – Event Management professionals who take control of the
entire wedding day right from the point where the bride and groom wear their
dresses till the point where they end up to their bedroom for the first night !
Pathetic situation. HD videos increasing day by day filmy shoots and even
honeymoon trips accompanied by the so called photography package. Where is the
new generation heading to?
Behind the scenes of pomp
weddings, we can see worried and tensed parents who have sleepless nights
thinking how to accommodate these expenses to please the damn society. And end
up taking loans and finally they end their lives repaying it. Then comes again the
rule of most keralite marriages the delivery EXPENSES of the first child born
to the family should be carried out by the bridegroom over loading the
bridegroom’s family. Then after 1 year
or two or more the couple ends up in divorce and then the parents have to run
behind the expense on court cases which have an increasing market demand
nowadays as well……………….
Let’s peep into the highlights of
the proposal:
(1) The
commission proposes that there should be only 1 function for marriage and
guests shall not cross 200. (This is very much unclear they have not mentioned
as to who will bear the cost of the function is it half each side ??) And
guests can’t be limited as well. (People complain a lot if they are missed out
in the invitation list and then take revenge by not inviting them to their
functions).
(2) Bride
shall not use more than 120g of gold (I guess this will be a blow on ‘all the Jewelers
of India and they will go on strike) I would suggest that this should be
reduced to “NO GOLD”.. Please someone explain to me the relation between gold
and a marriage…..!!! Who said that the bridegroom must wear gold in a marriage
event???? Is it written somewhere???
(3) Bridal
Wear should be less than 5000. (I think it would have been better if they put a
dress code better else can’t control it)
(4) Auditorium
rent should be less than 25000. (Most auditoriums are very costly. The govt
should provide halls for free to conduct mrrges).
(5) Decorations
should not cross 5000 (I have seen stages and auditoriums flooded with fresh
flowers which die the very next day. Poor Flowers)
(6) Invitation
card should not exceed 25rupees.( no need for invitation cards now emails
WhatsApp and phone calls are enough J)
(7)
Last but not the least if the proposal comes
into practice, those marriages not following it will be fined and the fine
amount will be used for the marriages of economically poor background people.
(Here also there lies is a loop hole as to if its conducted; so it does not
strictly ban such events, I would say the fine amounts and legal action should
be strong and higher so that people should back out at the very thought of
conduction one against the rules).
Kerala Film fame Rima Kallingal and Ashiq Abu set a best
example of a simple marriage which is highly appreciable. To the New Generation
who have not married yet; kindly open your eyes and thoughts wide open and set
examples like them rather than running behind the KOL (Kiss of Love) and HOL
(Hug of Love) strikes.
I saw many negative comments in the internet regarding
this proposal. To all those I have a few answers:
Neither parents nor children or relatives of
moderately rich families would prefer a simple marriage without pomp and show;
but by conducting one it would be a great milestone and relief to the less
fortunate and lessen their burden in conducting such society pleasing marriage
functions and thus will help in reducing the marginal graph between the rich
and poor. Be considerate of your fellow beings. If you have so much money please
don’t waste it on this marriage show offs and pomp; please secure it for your
children as bank savings as they step into their new life so it will back up
them and their life runs smoothly and not end up in divorces because I feel
most family issues arises due to financial short comings.
Let’s wait and see if this proposal will shed some
light into the public and gets approved by the Government or not….I wish it
would :-)
“Be the change you wish to see in the
world”- Mahatma Gandhi
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